Parent or Cop… Which One Are You?

By Safe Call Now’s Dr. Laura Brodie Ph.D.

In my work with cops, I’ve worked with their kids. Cops need to hear what their kids are complaining about. “He treats me like a suspect.” “She doesn’t trust me.” “He is cold and unfeeling, telling me what I’m doing wrong and never what I’m doing right.” But in talking to cops, I hear over and over how much they love their kids and remain confused about why their children do not feel their love.

Being a cop is a job that bleeds over to one’s personal life. The same can be said with psychologists. We psychologists place our own children on the couch of “processing” everything instead of allowing our children to simply be kids. Cops tend to respond to rule breaking in a matter of fact way, slap on the cuffs and haul them in. But what if this person is your child?

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When “PTSD” Came Home…

By Samantha Smith – Armor Up West Virginia

PTSD is no stranger in my house. My husband and I both have different degrees of it. The decision for my husband to go to an out of state treatment center was a very abrupt decision. It wasn’t anything we had discussed, but we knew he was going to need help.

The waves of emotions began to take over. We had very little time to prepare for my husband to be gone. The idea of not knowing how long he would be gone for was terrifying. The few days leading up to his send off were some of the most difficult days. I kept telling myself to keep a positive attitude, don’t let him see the worry or fear on my face. I knew if he had the smallest hint of doubt about me not being able to handle everything, he would cancel and not go.

It took a lot of reassurance on my part to let him know we (myself and our daughter) would be ok. Looking back, I think I was also trying to convince myself too. My anxiety was through the roof. I was secretly crying.

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What “NOT” to say to the spouse or partner of someone with PTSD

By Vanessa Stapleton – President- Armor Up West Virginia

We live in a time where EVERYONE has an opinion. Opinions are not always backed with education and research. When dealing with PTSD, people want to tell you what they would do or even what you should do. More often than not, those “opinions” are based on no research, no experience, and no education on the topic. Most are just casual comments that people say without thinking of the damage they are doing to another human with their words. The truth is that someone who has never lived in the hell of PTSD has no idea what they “would do” in that situation.

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